There are definitely things out there the annoy the snot out of me. We all have our pet peeves.
One of mine is people who act “fake”. I just do not understand how people are so flipping afraid to be their own person. I mean, who cares what other people think? God created us all for diversity within the Body of Christ, not for us to all be uniform walking dead zombies.
Lately, I have been somewhat frustrated with people who do things just because other people are doing them. Just like the kid that had the ability to see dead people, after a decade of being a “churchgoer”, I now have the ability to say “I see fake people”.
After a few years of attending “church”, I started to feel intimidated to speak on a lot of different things, because unfortunately, most of the people I interacted with could not handle my straightforward approach. I felt like I did not “fit in”. When I would express my opinion of various doctrine, I started to feel myself slowly being excluded from a lot of “church” functions, because I guess I was way too straightforward with others. Quite frankly, this was one of the main reasons I stop attending the “system”. I did not isolate myself from gathering with other people, I just got out of the environment that seemed to spawn “fake” people on a daily basis.
We are constantly reminded by society that we should think a certain way, act a certain way, dress a certain way, love a certain way. Well I say bullshit to that. You see, when I went to “church” that definitely made me realize this even more. It is sad to say, but I could count on one hand the number of “real” people I met while in “church” (or even outside the walls), and I went to a church with 18,000 members.
What I cannot count is the number of churchgoers I have met over the years who have been all smiles every time I have seen them. It made me want to throw up. It got to the point I thought beautiful sunlight and a rainbow would shine through their bedroom windows every morning, and that their world was full of chocolate and candy canes. Then I would see “fruit”* in their lives that was definitely not something to smile about. So why do most people feel the need to act fake all the time?
I mean after all, gathering together as His Body is supposed to be where people can be real and worship God and not have to pretend, right?
It is sad to think that most of our “churches” have been reduced to being an exclusive club where we have to guard our every step so others will not gossip about us or look down on us, but in many cases that is what today’s institutional church has become. It is like walking on eggshells. People do not feel free to share things about themselves in this environment because they are afraid of appearing vulnerable and weak. I would also like to point out that if churchgoers put up a facade while attending church then I am sure they do the same thing everywhere else in their life: at work, at the grocery store, and any other time there may happen to be other people around.
How are we to love and encourage one another as Christ commands if people do not let others know who they are, and what is really going on in their lives. It is time for this behavior to stop.
*a metaphor, comparing people to fruit-bearing trees. In the same way that you can tell the nature and quality of a tree by its fruit, you can tell the nature and quality of a person by their actions.